Adoption, Education, Lifestyle

Dear Frankie

I forgive you.

Thank you for your beautiful letter. It brought happy tears.

It’s at times like these that I remind myself how strong and resilient you really are. It took grit and great emotional intelligence to acknowledge how your actions made me feel.

Knowing that you fully understand how your actions can have a direct impact on others is so reassuring.

It means that you trust me to share your feelings surrounding shame, disappointment and regret. These are difficult emotions for most people to come to terms with.

We all make mistakes.

I’m no exception, everyone, kids, grownups, no one is perfect. I have made many mistakes in the 7 years of raising you and I’m still learning from them. I try hard not to repeat them and to share my failures with others in the hopes that they don’t make the same ones as me.

I would love to say that I am the best parent in the world but that would be silly. There is no such title. I just know that I’m trying to be the best parent I can for you my love.

Some days I smash it and some days I struggle, just like you.

The reason you know how to say sorry and make things better is because I taught you.

I showed you. I shared with you my mistakes, my failures and how to overcome them.

I won’t pretend everything is okay when it’s not. I won’t put on a brave face when I’m not feeling brave. I won’t hide the truth and brush things under the carpet. I won’t say it doesn’t matter when it does.

I will be truthful.

I will be honest.

I will be your ‘real’ Mum.

Forever Yours

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