Dear Frankie,

There are many people that won’t have heard of the term ‘Letterbox Contact.’

If someone is adopted like you or indeed have adopted a child like I have, then like us, they will most likely be very familiar with it.

It’s probably one of the most individually complicated correspondences of all time.

‘Letterbox’ allows us to share our news, growth, and personal developments with your Birth Family.

When I first learned about the importance of ‘Letterbox Contact,’ It took quite a while to get my head around the idea. 

The truth is I’m always trying to get my head around it.

When we think of Adoption, we think of Protection, Consistency, Commitment, Continuity and Care.

Adoption isn’t a fresh start or a new beginning it is simply a different path.

It is one that was paved for you by professional people with your very best interests at heart.

This collective decision was by no means taken lightly, you must always remember that.

My role is to walk that very same path alongside you, every step of the way for the rest of my life.

When I became your Mother, I became responsible for your wellbeing and your future. 

As you know, I take my role very seriously, it was and continues to be the greatest honour bestowed upon me.

I will be eternally grateful.

‘Letterbox Contact’ doesn’t ensure regularity 

with Birth Family however.

As you know, for some years, cards and letters flow but for other years, we hear no news at all.

This is why ‘Letterbox’ is so difficult to get our heads around sometimes.

Instead, we have learned to get our hearts around it instead.

We don’t judge and condemn, we use our skills of empathy.

We no longer anticipate a response or reply to our letters, instead we have good thoughts and send our very best wishes in the hopes that their path too is paved with love, hope and happiness.

Forever Yours,

Mum x

20/12/2019