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Morning Mum, ‘Morning Love, are you feeling any better?’ I’m feeling more myself but we’re all under the weather, Jen’s been off work this week and has had to take to her bed and now Frankie’s got Covid. I’m run down physically and I think when a wave of grief comes crashing, everything becomes magnified. …
School has never been an easy ride for Frankie. She’s always had to try hard to navigate the National Curriculum in her own unique way. With a diagnosis of Developmental Language Disorder last year, the education system is finally catching up. Yesterday Frankie called me from school to say she had taken a test in …
Dear Frankie, Do you know one of the reasons our adoption profiles were matched? Because of the colour of our skin! When I began the adoption process I thought I would be able to adopt any baby born in this country that needed a forever Mum. The truth is it wasn’t quite as simple as …
Dear Mum, I can remember every single line on your face, did you know that? If I close my eyes and picture your skin, it’s like a little map of our lives together. When you were alive you said you had always struggled with your skin. You told me it started in adolescence. You not …
Dear Mum, I don’t need you any more. I don’t think I’ll ever stop wanting you however and I know I need to learn to live with that. I’m here in the world without you now and it feels so weird. Some days I forget you’ve gone and will set a place at the dinner …
Dear Frankie, Thank you for believing in me. I sold our home and gave away our things. You said…….’It’s ok Mum.’ I moved you from one school to another. Twice. You said……..’It’s ok Mum.’ I put extending our family on hold. You said………’It’s ok Mum.’ I asked you to share me with another love. You …
Dear Frankie, Thirteen years ago I was about to embark on the biggest adventure of my life to date. PARENTING. I was incredibly excited and nervous in equal measure. I didn’t sleep very well in the run up to meeting you, I tried to, but as you know, I can have an over active imagination …
Dear Frankie, It’s been almost ten weeks in lockdown together and when I say together, I mean we have been inseparable haven’t we? It’s not been easy for both of us though has it? It’s not all been fun and games, it’s challenging and difficult at times, it’s testing for us both. A 46 year …
Dear Frankie, Being adopted by a single Mum doesn’t mean that you will automatically grow up and become a single adopter like me. Being raised by a single Mum who fell in love with another kind, caring and committed woman doesn’t automatically mean you will do the same. I didn’t choose to be gay Frankie …
Nov 17th… ‘Shopping for Lesbian Biscuits.’ ‘Mum, have you noticed that I favour plaid.’ ‘What’s PLAD?’ She crunched. ‘Is it another one of your new terms?’ ‘No Mum, plaid, you know, flasks, lumberjacks, highland toffee, cowgirls, picnic blankets.’ I think it’s fascinating that so many lesbians are drawn to a checked shirt, myself included. There …